The One - 10 Questions to Ask Yourself 1. Is it love or infatuation?
There's nothing wrong with infatuation, except that it can be short lived. Ask yourself whether or not your feelings run deeper than passion and infatuation. If he's truly the one, you'll know it's love you feel in your heart.
2. Are there any deal breakers?
Are there any aspects to your relationship that are truly deal breakers? If so, make sure you're facing the situation, not pretending it will go away after you make the ultimate commitment.
3. Do you love him for the right reasons?
Love is a great reason to get married, but is this the reason you want to stay together? Make sure your intentions are clear. If the relationship is more about money, or you're on the rebound, it's time to rethink your approach.
4. Do you have a long term plan together?
Do you regularly talk about the future? If the relationship is meant to be, you should be openly discussing your finances, family, children, religion, etc. If these topics are not on the table, ask yourself why?
5. Can you live with his flaws?
Everyone has a few flaws, nobody is perfect. Make sure you're clear on the parts of his personality that bug you. Once you know the issues, ask yourself whether or not you can live with them for the rest of your life?
6. Does your mind drift to someone else?
In those moments when you're alone and your mind wanders, who do you think about? If it's him, then he's probably the one. If you're still thinking about a former flame or a new guy you just met, then ask yourself whether your current boyfriend is really the one for you?
7. Do you share the same values?
It's okay if your personalities are completely different. In fact, complimentary personalities can often be a better long term fit than two very similar people. However, you'll want to make sure you share the same underlying values around morals, family, and other deep rooted topics.
8. How does he make you feel?
Do you feel like a better person or a worse person when you're around him? If he's truly the one, he should make you feel beautiful inside and out when you're together. If instead he makes you feel ugly, worthless, desperate, etc., then there's a problem.
9. Does he put you first?
If each of you focuses on giving to the other 100% of the time then everyone is giving and everyone is getting. Does he think of you before his job, his buddies, his dog? You'll want to understand where you fit in his list of life priorities.
10. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him?
The rest of your life can seem like a really long time. It will seem even longer if you marry the wrong person. Think about what it means to wake up alongside this man every morning. Does it put a smile on your face, or make you wonder who else is out there?
